Managing time and managing yourself
Top 10 ways to manage yourself -
time wise
“Time management” is a myth. Time ticks by,
whether you achieve what you want to or not in the run of a day or week.
“Time waits for no man” as the saying goes. The only thing that you can
manage, time-wise, is YOU.
The following tips will help you on the road to
a less hectic schedule.
1. Get Organized
It’s hard to manage your schedule if you spend
a great deal of time hunting for keys, team notices and school papers. Once
you are organized, with a workable system in place, you will find that
managing your schedule will become much easier.
2. Call a family meeting
In order to reign in the overwhelming schedule
that most families have, you must get input from all the concerned parties.
Ask each family member to pick one or two
activities that they are passionate about. Though you may want your children
to be exposed to a number of activities, remember that downtime is essential
for children. An overscheduled life leads to stress, burnout and a lack of
interest. Contrary to popular thinking, it won’t necessarily make your
children “well-rounded” but you can be sure it will make them stressed,
irritable and generally unhappy. Children don’t like the pressure of too
many activities any more than adults do.
In our household of six, we limit our children
to one sporting activity to promote health and fitness, and one “community
minded” activity, like Scouts or Brownies. This works very well, and allows
us two nights off per week, when there are no activities scheduled at all.
It did, however, mean some compromises. When we scheduled our son and
daughter for Cubs, we had to switch our daughter’s tap dancing to a
different night, at a different location. All worked out in the end, as we
now drive a little farther for the dance school, but I use the hour that she
dances to get groceries at the local supermarket.
We also encourage reading, playing outside with
friends, and musical pursuits through school band. We find that the kids are
happy with their schedules and are not stressed out over activities. It also
leaves plenty of downtime and homework time in their schedule.
3. Learn to say “No”
Sounds simple, doesn’t it. Go ahead and
practice it now. “NO”. However, when someone calls you and says “We really
need your help”, it becomes very hard to say that little word. Despite
impassioned pleas, the cause that wants your assistance will NOT fold
without you.
Go ahead and donate your time to one or two
causes that you are passionate about, and tell the rest that you would love
to help out, but you are not able to give them the attention they deserve.
Thank them for considering you, but you must decline.
Saying “No” is a way to honor yourself by
allowing you to give your full attention to the one or two causes you
choose. Doing so means that your cause benefits and your soul benefits by
the calm that can enter your life when you devote yourself and your time to
what you genuinely love.
4. Use Unique Storage Ideas
Sounds like an odd suggestion for managing
yourself, time-wise, but it’s really a great idea.
Most people do not like to admit that they read
in the bathroom. However, most of us do. So store any magazines that you
want to read in the bathroom. I also print off newsletters that I want to
read and store them there. I am always guaranteed two things – time to read
and a few minutes of peace and quiet away from my overly energetic toddlers.
By using my time to multitask, I can read the
articles that interest me without taking up work time or family time.
5. Delegate
Our children all have “chores” according to age
and ability. The toddlers (ages 3 and 4) are responsible for picking up
their toys and putting them away. Since they know exactly where the storage
areas are, it’s very easy for them to do. They can also set the table and
help with sorting the laundry. They love to load the washer, thinking that
it’s just a big game.
Our older children (ages 10 and almost 12) are
responsible for emptying the garbage cans and the compost containers. They
also take care of shovelling snow off of the back steps, getting the
newspaper and the mail and doing laundry. They make their beds, and keep
their rooms tidy. The only beds I have to make below to my husband and me,
and our youngest daughter.
Hubby and I equally share our household chores.
This means that we cook, clean up or do laundry and housework depending on
who is available. This also means that neither of us is solely responsible
for all the household duties, which is a great stress reliever in itself.
6. Use a Master Calendar
We have a huge dry-erase style calendar that
hangs right by my desk. All activities are scheduled from here, and my
husband and I each make note of upcoming events in our individual planners.
This allows us to have an overview of all activities, meetings, Doctor
appointments, school happenings and special events like Cub camps and dance
recitals. We also sit down for a few minutes together each day and review
our schedules so we can each make the other aware if things have cropped up
during time apart.
If you work opposite schedules of your
significant other, “sticky notes” strategically placed are a gigantic help.
7. Develop a Flexible “Daily Plan”
Quite by accident, we have developed a rough
outline of a few necessary activities for our day. When we were having
septic system troubles, we were forced into a routine of no more than two
loads of laundry per day so that the septic field had time to absorb the
water. And guess what? We kept that system. It’s a relief to know that I
only ever have to do two loads of laundry per day, one in the morning and
one at night. And I was quite surprised to find that this worked exceedingly
well despite our large family.
We don’t get backed up with laundry now, and
there are even days when we only have to do one load. HURRAY!
Scheduling regular activities into your day or
week makes it easier to carry them out. Grocery shopping gets done when I
take our oldest daughter to dance lessons and items for mailing get taken to
the postal outlet when we drive our son to Tae Kwon Do. This sort of
multi-tasking works well for us, as well as streamlines our time and makes
the most of trips we have to take anyway.
8. Adjust Your Expectations
Perfection is unrealistic. There will be days
when you seem to get nothing done. This is NORMAL. By staying open to
change, you don’t get yourself so worked up when things appear to be going
crazy. Know that not every day will be efficient and work well. Know that
there will be times when you have uncooperative kids, a cranky car, traffic,
classes that run late, etc. etc. Just smile and take a deep breath and know
that you have a chance to try again tomorrow.
9. Take Adult Time Out’s
Some days, after dealing with two toddlers all
day, then two school aged kids, a business and a full-time student spouse, I
really don’t feel like cooking. So I declare a “Weird Supper Night” and the
kids are allowed to have anything they find in the refrigerator, as long as
they have something from each of the four food groups. This is my “Adult
Time Out”. I don’t cook, the kids think it’s hilarious to each pickles,
pepperoni, milk and a bagel and I can relax.
This works especially well on nights when we do
have an activity scheduled and hubby and I have had to work late.
10. Schedule Downtime
Write it on your calendar. Go to the gym alone.
Go get a facial or a massage. Run on your treadmill or take a brisk walk.
Turn off the television and play a game with your children. Honor your
family by scheduling downtime into your week. As well, try to take a 20
minute block at least once per day where you do something just for you.
Children and partners will all adjust. And you’ll be in a better frame of
mind when you return to them. All around, everyone wins.
By Jill Chongva Align Your Life Organizing & Office
Services http://www.vadiva.com
Telephone (204) 489 0932
Jill Chongva is the owner of Align Your Life Organizing
based in Winnipeg, Manitoba. Her 5 years organizing experience, combined
with her 19 years in Administration, plus her ability to multitask as the
mother of 4 children under the age of 11, gives her a wide variety of
skills, tips and tricks to offer her exclusive clientele.
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